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On anger, burnout, identity, resentment, and the emotional complexity of caring for others while trying not to lose yourself.

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Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

How to Help Someone You Love Who Keeps Self-Destructing

When someone you love is struggling—drinking, using, gambling, spiraling, avoiding responsibility, or repeatedly hurting themselves and others, it’s natural to want to help. But the painful truth is that trying to fix, rescue, monitor, convince, or control someone else often deepens the cycle for everyone involved. In this post, a therapist explores what Al-Anon teaches about detaching with love, why enabling is usually rooted in anxiety rather than selfishness, and how to stay connected to someone you love without losing yourself trying to save them.

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Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

The Real Reason Boundaries Feel So Hard

Boundaries have become one of the most popular concepts in psychology—and one of the most misunderstood. Real boundaries are not about controlling other people, saying no to everything, or cutting people off. They are about remaining connected to yourself even when someone else is disappointed, uncomfortable, or disagrees.

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