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Motherhood

On anger, burnout, identity, resentment, and the emotional complexity of caring for others while trying not to lose yourself.

Parenting

For parents navigating adolescence, technology, boundaries, emotional regulation, and the changing role of parenthood.

Relationships

Writing on communication, conflict, codependency, emotional availability, and the patterns that repeat in intimate relationships.

Anxiety & Self-Trust

For people who look composed on the outside but feel uncertain, self-critical, over-responsible, or disconnected from their own needs.

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Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

Why Do I Lose Interest When Someone Likes Me?

You’re interested in someone, until they like you back. If this pattern keeps happening, it may be worth looking beyond chemistry. Attachment, vulnerability, self-worth, and our experiences of intimacy can all influence who we desire and what happens when someone gets close.

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Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

What Is Love Bombing? Signs of Intense Affection That May Be a Red Flag

Love bombing can feel a lot like falling in love: intense attention, constant communication, and a powerful sense of connection. Learn how to recognize the difference between genuine excitement and unhealthy relationship intensity, why some people are particularly vulnerable to love bombing, and what happens when affection becomes a source of pressure or control.

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Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

How Childhood Roles Follow You Into Adulthood

Many adults eventually realize they are still playing the same emotional role they played in childhood: the caretaker, the achiever, the peacekeeper, the “easy” one. In this post, a therapist explores how family systems, temperament, psychodynamic theory, IFS, self psychology, and relational patterns shape adult identity, relationships, anxiety, perfectionism, and emotional habits long into adulthood—and how healing begins with awareness rather than blame.

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