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On anger, burnout, identity, resentment, and the emotional complexity of caring for others while trying not to lose yourself.

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Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Relationships Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

How Childhood Roles Follow You Into Adulthood

Many adults eventually realize they are still playing the same emotional role they played in childhood: the caretaker, the achiever, the peacekeeper, the “easy” one. In this post, a therapist explores how family systems, temperament, psychodynamic theory, IFS, self psychology, and relational patterns shape adult identity, relationships, anxiety, perfectionism, and emotional habits long into adulthood—and how healing begins with awareness rather than blame.

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Motherhood Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD Motherhood Rebecca Lesser Allen, PsyD

Why Are Mothers Always Asking for Permission?

"Am I allowed to stop breastfeeding? Am I allowed to need more help? Am I allowed to feel angry? One of the most common phrases I hear from mothers in therapy is some version of 'Am I allowed?' What if the guilt so many mothers feel isn't a personal failing, but a reflection of larger cultural expectations about what motherhood is supposed to look like?"

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